Sexual Predators are Everywhere

Tragedy struck again today in Satsuma, Florida as young Haleigh Cummings was missing from her bed this morning. Haleigh lived with her father and his girlfriend. The girlfriend discovered the little girl missing at about 3 am this morning. The authorities were contacted and upon arrival found at least one entrance to the home unlocked.

The local news media report that over 25 registered sex offenders reside in the immediate area. As the father of a three year old and with another on the way, this story literally makes me ill. First and foremost my heart and prayers go out to Haleigh and her family. I pray that God return her safely to her family.

Several months ago we posted a blog regarding sexual predators. In the post we listed some great references and resources; my hope then and now is to raise awareness regarding the danger these sex offenders pose. I think this is a topic that is important to revisit. If we can help prevent just one sexual crime this is time well spent.

I have one request of everyone who reads this post. Please, please, please send it to all of your friends, family and community members.

The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children is a priceless resource with a wealth of information and safety tips. One of the most important resources is several links to discover and track sex offenders. The US Department manages the National Sex Offender website. Go there right now and do an advanced search of offenders in your zip code. I just did exactly that and found 30 “hits” in our zip code! You can drill down and view the picture, address and crime for each.

Now go to the FBI’s “Crime Against Children” website. At this site you choose your state; you are then redirected to your State Police site (in our case this is the Louisiana State Police). This site is more detailed, for instance my search turned up 15 convicted sex offenders within a 2 mile radius of our home! To say this makes me very uncomfortable is an understatement. So then I look at the first and closest offender to my home. This guy lives less than a quarter mile from my home and has been convicted twice. The crime molestation of juvenile. As I look a little more I find that about 30 percent of these people are “non compliant”, meaning law enforcement has no idea where they are. So what you get is a last known address.

Again, awareness is the key. You must go to the links above and find out the who, what and where regarding these sexual predators in your area. Now call a neighborhood meeting and show them what you’ve discovered. Insist that they notify everyone they know. Next, contact your local sheriff’s or police department; ask them to come out and speak to your family, friends, or community. Partner with local law enforcement to help keep tabs on these animals. Post a add in your local newspaper with the web resources and encourage people to “spread the word”.

Let your preist or pastor know what about these resources and ask if he can mention it in the monthly newsletter or post on the web. You get the idea! Educate yourself then educate others. You can truly make a difference. By doing this you could save a child from falling victim to these predators.

Now how do I teach my child about personal safety? Many parents and guardians feel challenged to keep their children safer in today’s society. At what age can we begin teaching our children about personal safety.

Unfortunately, “one size” doesn’t fit all. A child’s ability to understand safety skills and put them into practice is determined not just by age, but also by the child’s educational and developmental levels.To truly learn new safety skills, children need to model, rehearse and practice the skills to incorporate them into their daily lives.

* Speak to your child in a calm and reassuring way. Fear is not an effective teaching tool; confidence is.

* Speak openly about safety issues. If you approach child safety openly, your children will be more likely to come to you with problems or concerns.

* Don’t confuse children by warning against “strangers.” Danger to children is much greater from someone you or they know than from a “stranger.”

* Teach children that no one has the right to force, trick, or pressure them into doing things they don’t want to do.

* Practice safety skills by creating “what if” scenarios. An outing to a mall or the park can serve as a chance for children to practice safety skills, such as checking with you before they go anywhere or do anything, and locating adults who can help if they need assistance.

* Supervise your children. It is vital to their protection and safety. Children should not be put in the position of making safety choices if they are not old enough or skilled enough to make those choices.

* Check out adults who have access to your children. The more involved you are in your child’s life, the less likely it is that your child will seek attention from other, potentially dangerous adults.

Simple Rules for Children When They Need Help

The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) has a signature safety publication, Knowing My Rules for Safety, to help parents and guardians teach personal safety skills to children. The rules are simple and concise and provide encouragement and options for children who need an adult’s help.

Help make a difference today! Statistics show that the first three hours after an abduction are critical. By signing up for wireless Amber Alerts you could play a vital role in the recovery of an abducted child.

super dad,loyal supportive ex husband is this a good thing or bad thing for for the new gf?

been datting this great guy for 6 months.He has 2 young children with his exwife who he adoors.At 1st a thought this was great as if we get married he would be a wonderful dad to our children.I understand the kids will allows come before me but the exwife too?For example if his exwife has a “date” and needs him to watch the kids he will change his plans with me to accomudate her(DOES NOT mean he gets to see his kids more which i could understand just gets then on different days) This has happend about 20 times in 6 mons. and not once did he even tell her we have plans he just said “I’d be happy to help you out”.He has joint custody and has his kids 50% of the time.But he he never switches days with her we allways have to make plans to do something on the days he does not have his children.

Get Over a Past Relationship: Let Bygones be Bygones

It is never easy to forget or get over a past relationship, but sometimes we need to do it as certain relationships can turn out to be ugly and stress us beyond imagination. While the good relationships leave a lasting impression on our minds, we have to make an effort to move on to greener pastures in life.

Being impulsive and starting a new relationship without making an effort to remove the bad phase of your life can spell doom for you, as you may end up feeling all the more distraught. Take your time to forget the bad past but make sure you don’t distance yourself from the world around you for a very long time while trying to get over a relationship that did no good to you.

Relationships that develop as a rebound are not usually lasting. Getting into a rebound relationship and that too before you are done with your old relationship, can be unfair as you won’t be able to express the emotions required to sustain a relationship. As a result, the next relationship will also end on a sour note leaving you even more distraught. So before you enter into another relationship, you have to make sure that you forget the past or at least be true to yourself and make an earnest effort to make your life better not miserable.

Learn to move on. If there is anything worse than not being able to forget already ruined relationship, it is wallowing in self-pity. Don’t feel victimized by your past…instead learn lessons from it while emerging as a stronger person. Agreed it is easier said than done and most people can’t get over their mistakes while learning lessons from it. But the ones who have been able to do it successfully find themselves in happy relationships once again.

In order to make right decision, you also need to concentrate on the positive points in yourself. Remind yourself that you are not the one to be bogged down by painful memories. You can make right decisions by being confident of yourself. If you find it agonizing to re-think over your past relationship, seek professional help or turn to similar individuals who are also in the same state. Sharing your problems and finding a vent for them would surely help you. And while making the efforts to move on from your relationship, ensure that you protect your self-esteem at all times.

At such times when you need to re-examine yourself, you have to realize that there is no harm or shame in seeking the services of a therapist. At such times you may feel lonely and lose your ground. You may also blame yourself for everything. A therapist can not only help you to learn from your past mistakes, but he/she can also make you realize that the world is indeed full of good people who will not analyze your every action and rather help you to forget or get over a past relationship that will help you in making better decisions in the future.

The process of having to forget or get over a past relationship is not easy and you certainly can’t avoid it. You need to forget or get over a past relationship and only then can you be content in a new relationship. A fantastic way to find happiness in love once again is to completely let bygones be bygones.

When is it Enough in a marriage?

Before me and my wife got married and we were datting, she had cheated on me, went out with other guys and flirted with guys online. I let it go and felt she was truelly sorry. Then we got engaged and she looked up her ex online while she was living with me and I was working, taking care of her (on my computer). Not to mention she had a million celeb. crushes that made me feel I could never be what she wanted. Now that we are married I feel still I am not good enough. I try to be romantic, think of her, get her flowers every other day, write her poems, make her dinner, buy her what ever she wants and do anything in my power to make her happy. But still I feel as she is playing mind games with me, trying to make me jealous! she rarely complements me (only when I tell her she has not said anything nice to me for days) and it is to the point she is calling me an idiot and an ass. We argue alot but I never call her names or yell. She has even thown a cup of pop at me when I told her I was going for a walk to cool down from arguing. I feel I want to forgive her past, but how can I if she wont let me forget it? she always talks about places she went clubbing and such with her freinds and it drives me nuts!!! I feel we are doomed for devorce but I really dont know what to do. Is my jealousy to blame if this marriage fails? if so, how do I forgive her past? She is also my first… I am her 3rd. plus the time she cheated on me… I have never gone clubbing nor want to. How do I get over all of this? I am trying my best to forget but it seems she doesnt want me to.

What Shows Up on a Criminal Background Check?

The most common feature of a background check is the criminal history of a person. This criminal history report is vital to big businesses, most especially if the person is applying for a job. Information included in the background check are crimes committed by the individual, if any, the period of time the individual stayed in jail, probation, or if the individual was ever released in parole. The most accurate source of information is obtained from highly regarded background check companies or those with direct contact from state officials.

Individuals can choose from different options when it comes to criminal background checks. Some records are available for free on state government websites and also in government offices. But all state governments do not allow access to the public on criminal records as very few governments offer these records online. In the meantime, some websites offer free criminal background checks as well. More detailed information is offered by private companies for a minimal fee. And there are other private investigators who offer these services for fee on their respective websites. Another best way to get a free criminal background check is through the office of the sheriff or even the courthouse referring to the questionable person.

There is however a disadvantage in getting free criminal background checks as these are not detailed and complete. These free check reports will let the person know about the basic details about an individual. A free criminal background check will be able to answer if the said individual is a criminal or even a sex offender. These criminal background checks also provide information about birth date, death and marriage records, and addresses relating to the individual.

For a free criminal background check, it is important that the following information are always available like the name of the person, birth date, address, Social Security Number or SSN, country of origin and the person’s inhabitance. If this information is available in the free criminal background check, one may pay to obtain more comprehensive details of a person for further criminal background check.

These free reports explore primary records and therefore would be helpful in case of future litigation. Information that you may find in a free criminal background check include birth, criminal records, death and marriage records, records of sexual offender, as well as the copyright and trademark records.

Criminal background checks are complex and an individual has to be more cautious while acquiring free criminal background check. These check reports retrieves information about people in public and in the personal domain. Therefore, some companies that offer free criminal background checks may be intruding one’s privacy and may be defying other federal laws.

What have you learned from past relationships?

What have you learned from past relationships?

I think my friend might be gay?

Me and my friends were at a bar and we were just sitting there drinkking some beers. I have a gf and one of my other friends is married. the other two arent because they are ugly. well, my married friend i think might be gay even though he is married.

HEre’s my reasoning: He talks kind of girly and he is always wearing clothes that match

he also takes a dance class with his wife. he also really likes to hang out with guys sometimes

but heres the kicker: we all got prostitutes and he said he didn’t want one….and it was a girl

is he probably gay? why wouldnt he sleep with a prostitute? and dont say because he s married, I’m datting someone and i still did it
what are morals? is it a gay thing?
why should i stop sleeping with prostitutes? my gf sleeps with my brother like every night…sometimes my dad too

When is the right time to bring up your past relationships to someone your dating?

Right when you begin dating someone, like the first few weeks, is their an appropriate time to talk about past relationships? Should they not be talked about? And if they are talked about, how elaborate should any explanation be?

do u aprrove 18yo girl in a relation with a 39 unhappy married man ?

Iam always atracted to older men . finaly i met 39 yo man we started datting and go out together till my older brother found about us and my b/f promesed my brother to stop our relation , last time i met him was 2mnths ago and i miss him very much I feel that its unfair .

List of free sites of criminal backgrounds or criminal records?

Hi,

I’ve a question relating to the availability of criminal records to the public online.

I know that you can go to your local courthouse, and search criminal records of adults in your local county or even state.

My question is:

Is there a site online, that doesn’t charge to view criminal records? Or criminal backgrounds?

I know a million sites charge a fee, but I think this is because they believe people are too stupid to be able to find the actual site that is free and provided by the government.