Cheating Women? – The 4 Stages of Dealing With a Cheating Woman

Written by admin on March 28, 2010 – 5:21 pm -

 

Numb and blank? Did you just discover your partner’s been cheating on you?

Do you have a zillion questions shooting through your head? Here is the harsh truth behind her behavior. We hope its starts a positive dialog between you two.

“Women Don’t Cheat! Or Do They?”

You are not alone – a lot of people share this misconception of the fairer sex. But fact is, evolutionarily, women are programmed to desire multiple partners purely for the benefit of the species – to increase genetic diversity!

In fact, polygamy and communal sexual activities were once the hallmarks of tribal societies. It’s almost as if Mother Nature intended her girls to have multiple partners but civilization fixed that.

So all, who imagine cheating as a male prerogative, rethink that theory and know – it was not your fault she cheated. She cheated because as an individual, she needed to.

“She Betrayed Me?”

Women cheat like men do, and often for similar reasons – feel-good factor, sex, control, power! They just go about it a bit differently.

Their response to, and expectations from the affair also differ from those of men. Men are easily aroused with mere visual stimuli and can have unemotional sexual experiences. With women, sex is a more intense and emotive experience. Not all women are able to have an impulsive affair.

If your partner cheated on you, and you know she isn’t the promiscuous type, then you should know she did it for a reason.

“I Failed Her!”

Men can get so caught up with their chief role in life- work; that they forget they share space with another person who needs them more than just as breadwinner.

So when was the last time you thanked her for dinner or bought her a useless trinket or took her on a vacation? When a woman doesn’t get the right signs from her partner, she automatically begins to wonder and then, wander.

You were supposed to give her something basic that you have probably failed to deliver. So she failed you. It’s a two way thing. But, stop guilt tripping. She took the extreme step, not you – no matter how you failed her. But you must also stop hating her, because you drove her to this extreme.

“What Next?”

Remember one fact – affairs are a sign of a relationship in danger but they do not spell the end. Especially when there are kids involved.

As the wronged partner, you can choose to learn from this error or, you can draw the line and move on, without ever knowing who to blame for the end of a relationship. But try to remember, failed relationships are not a one-way problem.

Women don’t just have affairs – they do it for a reason – for profit, for excitement, for revenge, for lust or because something is lacking in the relationship they are in. So talk to her and see if there is room for forgiveness and improvement.

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