super dad,loyal supportive ex husband is this a good thing or bad thing for for the new gf?
Written by admin on February 27, 2010 – 5:31 pm -been datting this great guy for 6 months.He has 2 young children with his exwife who he adoors.At 1st a thought this was great as if we get married he would be a wonderful dad to our children.I understand the kids will allows come before me but the exwife too?For example if his exwife has a “date” and needs him to watch the kids he will change his plans with me to accomudate her(DOES NOT mean he gets to see his kids more which i could understand just gets then on different days) This has happend about 20 times in 6 mons. and not once did he even tell her we have plans he just said “I’d be happy to help you out”.He has joint custody and has his kids 50% of the time.But he he never switches days with her we allways have to make plans to do something on the days he does not have his children.
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By thickhtowngurl on Feb 27, 2010 | Reply
oh hell naw.. thats not cool.. hows he just going to up and change yalls plans for her to do what she wants? she needs to schedule her dates around the days you guys have the kids..
By random name on Feb 27, 2010 | Reply
Well, in general I agree with you. It does sound like he would make a great dad for your kids and it seems that hes a great dad for his kids now. But I think that he is still very attached to his ex-wife, coz he seems to jump when she says he should!
I would give you the advise to talk to him about this and ask him to slowly let his ex-wife go in the sense that she does not own him. If its the kids Im afraid you cant (and sdnt) change that. Just tell him youll support him what ever he does with his kids, but that there is just a certain limit you can take with his ex-wife.
All the best, I hope you guys will work it out!
By princess on Feb 27, 2010 | Reply
like you said the kids come first and it sounds like his ex does not put the kids first because she knows he will step up and take care of his children. i think you have to accept the fact that this is the way things are always going to be and if you cant accept it then you need to move on. this man will make a wonderful husband/father and when you have your own children you will understand that you grab every second you can with them because in a blink of an eye they are grown.
By sharonsmineonly on Feb 27, 2010 | Reply
Maybe he would say no if he knew it bothered you. If he has done this 20 times in 6 mos and you havent told him it bothers you why would he assume it does? He is probably agreeing to watch the kids when she goes out for them not her, because he doenst want someone else watching them. Talk to him. If you guys dont communicate now marriage will be hell. Stop guessing at his motives and ask him. and also just another maybe, but maybe she causes problems when he wants a different day like maybe she suggests just to skip that visit or something…comunicate.