When is it Enough in a marriage?
Written by admin on February 25, 2010 – 5:36 pm -Before me and my wife got married and we were datting, she had cheated on me, went out with other guys and flirted with guys online. I let it go and felt she was truelly sorry. Then we got engaged and she looked up her ex online while she was living with me and I was working, taking care of her (on my computer). Not to mention she had a million celeb. crushes that made me feel I could never be what she wanted. Now that we are married I feel still I am not good enough. I try to be romantic, think of her, get her flowers every other day, write her poems, make her dinner, buy her what ever she wants and do anything in my power to make her happy. But still I feel as she is playing mind games with me, trying to make me jealous! she rarely complements me (only when I tell her she has not said anything nice to me for days) and it is to the point she is calling me an idiot and an ass. We argue alot but I never call her names or yell. She has even thown a cup of pop at me when I told her I was going for a walk to cool down from arguing. I feel I want to forgive her past, but how can I if she wont let me forget it? she always talks about places she went clubbing and such with her freinds and it drives me nuts!!! I feel we are doomed for devorce but I really dont know what to do. Is my jealousy to blame if this marriage fails? if so, how do I forgive her past? She is also my first… I am her 3rd. plus the time she cheated on me… I have never gone clubbing nor want to. How do I get over all of this? I am trying my best to forget but it seems she doesnt want me to.
Tags: Enough, marriage
Posted in Dating Married | 5 Comments »
By Confused on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply
If she cheated on you before you even got married, then why did you marry her. I swear, why do people give themselves false hopes when they know they are just going to get screwed again down the road.
By MIA< on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply
this sounds like a form of emotional abuse. if she knows that something is bothering you about certain conversation… and she continues to do it that is unhealthy you dont have to deal with that. take some healthy time apart from one another and really think about if this is the way you want to live. she can either change or not. you can either deal with the b.s. or not. make sure to try all you can to make it work before considering leaving her. if she leaves you then that is your answer. just know you are a great guy and you can be happy. it is all up to you.
By Willbewill on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply
Get your money home and property away from her legally before you cause a scene with her….you need a divorce because she is useing you.
By rhndnicholson on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply
if things were not right before, it is not going to be right after you get married, it gets worst. you should not have taken her back, once a cheat always a cheat. you really sound like an amazing man, she does not deserve you, and certainly does not respect or appreciate you. let her go, you have to love you first before you can love another person, if you loved you, you would not take the abuse from someone like that. look in the mirror and tell that guy looking back at you that you love, and care about him, and he deserves better, then get a lawyer. I am telling you it is not going to get any better only worst, now she call you names. next she will be bringing her lovers into your bed when you are working. find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. get out now! best of luck to you.
By Lizz W on Feb 25, 2010 | Reply
To be honest you seem like an amazing guy. You go out of your way to try and amke her happy. The world needs more guys like you, and i would deff. not blame your jealousy. This girl is deff and ass and you deserve a LOT better. Its complicated because your already married to her. But i think you should end it and find someone better that will treat you amazing
please answer mine, im in a rut..its kinda like ur situation but opp.
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