Why do women carry the worst parts of their past relationships with them?
Written by admin on May 5, 2009 – 11:50 am -Why do they treat me with suspicion, because of their own bad choices?
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
Posted in Past Relationships | 9 Comments »
By Odessa on May 5, 2009 | Reply
All of the bad things that happenend between me and other men, I fixed it if he didn't afterwards. The only ex I'm scared of is stalking me, and trying to kill me, yet I don't care…heheh…go figure.
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By denialsparks on May 5, 2009 | Reply
I guess its because being in a relationship with someone involves a lot of trust – depending on how intense it gets, etc. So if you have been hurt in the past by someone you opened up to or trusted then its going to take you sometime again to trust someone – even when that person, like yourself hopefully, who is to be trusted and is a decent guy.
My advice is to try your best to show her that you can be trusted and won't hurt her emotionally. Hey – hopefully its just an ajustment period.
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By 4demi on May 5, 2009 | Reply
Because they may have intimacy issues which manifest in their relationships in an obscure way. I would say that a large majority of them are unable to trust themselves, therefore, they turn it around. They repeat the cycle over and over. Don't buy into it.
Enjoy !!
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By remo_god on May 5, 2009 | Reply
they r pessemist ya… they dont like guys to live peacefully.. so they do these kinds of non sense things.. dont care more about them… jus go in ur way
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By Caprikorn on May 5, 2009 | Reply
Well first of all it's not JUST women that carry their past with them, men do it to. If something really bad happened to you, of course you are not just going to forget it. If a similar situation occurs, then of course the fear of the same thing happening in the end is going to come into mind. She is probably just worried, which yeah…she shouldn't assume you are going to treat her the same, but it's natural. Just try and be understanding about it. What if the situation was reversed? Keep in mind that women are WAY different than men!
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By summer_6002 on May 5, 2009 | Reply
Because women are bitter hags and only want to remember, and then whine about, the bad things in the past.
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By the_silverfoxx on May 5, 2009 | Reply
you can never tell when there past might come out and the sad thing it might be with the man that they care about men mark women like used meat to there friends as well to others to?
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By lil_miss_m on May 5, 2009 | Reply
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
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By butterfly on May 5, 2009 | Reply
Women tend to carry memories. We are in a small way damaged mentally when something traumatic happens. I will tell you that when we get involved in a new relationship we don't try to bring the past with. It so happens that when we are with someone there might be a freak thing that happens and we have a memory and will slightly freak out or even get a little scared. It is very hard for us to get rid of such horrifying experiences out of our heads. I should know. As time does go on some women can get over it. Depending on how bad it was, then is possible that the women is scared for life.
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